Chances of passing herpes
So if I've got my stats correct if I take a daily anti viral and have my herpes free partner wear a condom, there's about a 1% chance of transmission. Now, does that mean that if I have sex with him 100 times he'll likely contract it?
"I can relate been dealing with this on an off since late April. Finally felt like I was getting somewhere. I get a uti an bam it's back an this time I have more of a shingles rash under my breast forming, my legs are in pain, an I am so exhausted. was taking lysine 1000 powder a day but got uti which I think is from lysine found there is link to it. so 7 days of fever from that an I feel it's back. again. gonna up my aclyivior to 3 day from 2 see if helps. sorry your going through it to."
Casual sex and my first disclosure...
Back story: I've had HSV-2 for three and a half years. I didn't date or have any kind of sexual interactions for the three years since the "giver" and I broke up, until last month. Met a guy, we clicked immediately, went on one date, but he has been away a lot for work, and it seems like his interest has disappeared. (I still hope we'll date in the new year when his schedule settles down a little, but I'm not waiting around.) I had been really anxious about how and when to disclose to him, since I'd never had to tell anyone before, I really like him, and I'm terrified of rejection. Well, I was hanging out with another guy this weekend after the bar, initially just as friends. There were a few people there, but then they left, and we decided to watch a movie and cuddle. We started making out, and he wanted to go further, and I kept making up excuses, but he was persistent (and I wanted to have sex with him, too, I just didn't want to tell him my dirty little secret). Finally I told him--and he has it too!!! What a relief! He had never talked about it to anyone before, and was glad to be able to discuss it with someone. We had a short conversation about it, then proceeded to have great sex. We're just friends, not dating or anything, and it felt easier to tell him because I had nothing to lose. Now that I have my first disclosure out of the way, I feel better about my future. But telling someone I really like will still be scary and difficult...
Herpes Virus / Skin Outbreaks
Natural Alternative Health Program
How did HSV change your prospects of LTR/marriage?
I recently got diagnosed with HSV 2 and am 45 and single. I've been dating for year, looking for a long term relationship and/or marriage. It was difficult enough prior to the diagnosis. Now it seems incredibly daunting. I've been using online dating and I put on my profile that I have HSV 2 on the non-H specific site. I've also created a profile on H-specific sites though there don't seem to be many women on there. I'd rather put it out there, be honest, not have to have the conversation after someone gets to know me and might be shocked. I did this after reading about others who have done the same. Though, I'm a guy and I think it will be different for me than it will be for the woman I read about.
Are there singles out there that have experience with this? Experience with disclosure after getting to know someone, disclosure up front? Any advice, feedback and/or thoughts. Fear and uncertainty can be so difficult to navigate so I appreciate anything anyone shares.
Thank you in advance for your support! And know I support all of you amazing, courageous, thoughtful people on this forum!
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First Stage of Herpes: Viral Shedding
A few days before the onset of an outbreak, some people experience mild symptoms of itching, tingling, burning, and sometimes swelling and redness in the area where the lesions subsequently appear. The infected person is contagious during this stage because the virus is shedding from the skin. Since there are little to no symptoms during this stage, the infected person may not realize they are contagious and therefore not take precautions or abstain from skin-to-skin contact. Because of this, herpes is frequently transmitted to others during this initial stage of viral shedding.
Second Stage of Herpes: Bumps and Blisters
Sometimes there is only viral shedding and the virus becomes dormant again. Other times, the disease progresses to the second stage and the infected person has an "outbreak" of visible bumps and blisters, either around the mouth (which is referred to as a cold sore or fever blister) or in the genital area. These skin lesions usually begin as painful, small red bumps or tiny, fluid-filled blisters on a red base. According to the American Social Health Association, when this outbreak is in the genital area it is frequently mistaken for pimples, ingrown hairs, jock itch, insect bites or yeast infections, which explains why as many as 90 percent of people with herpes are unaware they are infected. The infected person is the most contagious during this stage because high concentrations of the virus reside in the fluid within the blisters. The first outbreak is the most severe and clustered bumps and blisters may be accompanied by flu-like symptoms. In subsequent episodes, there are usually fewer lesions.
Third Stage of Herpes: Crusts and Ulcers
About two to three days after bumps and blisters appear, they give way to crusts and ulcers. Crusts, as the name implies, are crusty, yellowish, granular scabs. They are more commonly seen on skin lesions, such as the border of the lip and groin. When lesions are on a mucous membrane, they do not crust effectively, resulting in ulcers--shallow, pink, well-demarcated "craters" where the surface layer of tissue is clearly absent. Crusts and ulcers are often itchy and painful. Viral shedding may continue during this time, making the infected person still contagious.
Fourth Stage of Herpes: Healing
Healing occurs as crusts and ulcers are gradually replaced by new tissue. As with other kinds of skin problems, healing occurs from the outside to the inside, with measurable decreases in diameter and depth. In a primary outbreak, the process may take as long as six weeks. In recurrent outbreaks, lesions usually resolve within a week. It is believed that antibodies present in recurrent outbreaks play some role in speeding the healing process. Herpes lesions usually heal without scarring, however, if there is a secondary bacterial infection scarring may occur. Although there is no cure for herpes and the infection can stay in the body for life, the number of outbreaks tends to decrease over a period of years and there are medicines that can prevent or shorten outbreaks, according to the Centers for Disease Control.
Will I ever be able to have sex again with herpes?
Just a quick question guys! I am so confused with these facts I have been hearing! I know that I cannot have sex unprotected, but if I wanted it protected, would I still pass it on? I dont want too tell anyone that I have it, does this mean I will not have sex until I can tell someone and they agree to take the risk? People I know that have herpes seem to be having sex?! I dont know how! I heard condoms kind of stop it passing, only if all areas are covered. I pretty much know I cannot have sex, even when protected.. It's so upsetting. The amount of times I have lost chances with guys and relationships over this!! I spose I just need too accept I no longer have the choice to sleep with a guy that I like 🙁 so I have to stay friends with them. Arghhh I wish there was a way around it!!! There must be!!!
HSV2 for 28 years, F
I was diagnosed about 2 weeks ago with HSV2, devastated I tried to trace my actions and partners... Thru my marriage I have had (2) affairs....immediately I was doing the blame game. Then it dawned on me, and I asked to view my medical record from an emergency room encounter I had when I was 19 years old...I remembered the pain, the fever, the blisters...I was tested for syphillis back then which was negative, not herpes...my final diagnosis that day was perianal ulcers....let's face it, it was aka herpes..I did not have another outbreak all these years....I find it so mind boggling that as a young adult I wasn't educated about the disease.....I have 3 grown children, thank God I didn't pass it to them.
I am just so distraught that all these years I have been living with this disease unintentionally affecting others...
Any comments would be appreciated and welcomed
Thank you, hugs to all
HSV1 genitally, having constant, intense herpes outbreaks
About six weeks ago, I was diagnosed with HSV-1 genitally, three weeks after a one-time encounter I had with someone who disclosed his status to me - at the last minute, right in the heat of the moment - but didn't have an active outbreak and we used a condom. Although, looking back, we had lots of skin-to-skin contact before the condom came out.
I'm still totally upset and completely shocked and astounded as to how I could have contracted it, as I now realize my risk was really quite low, as it was a one-time thing, and I understand that it's very rare to get this type of HSV genital-to-genital (we didn't have oral sex).
What bizarre, horrible luck. Regardless, I now have it, and I know I contracted it from him.
Exactly three weeks after our night together, I began having symptoms of an outbreak and immediately went to my local sexual health clinic to be tested. I was diagnosed with HSV after a visual exam and later, the swab taken of my lesion confirmed it was HSV-1.
I took my initial dose of Valtrex for 7 days, and I started feeling better almost right away - it gave me much relief, because when my first outbreak happened, my symptoms were very intense, with itching, burning and especially the tingling, and eventually, the emergence of a cluster of small bumps unlike anything I had ever seen before.
But as soon as I finished my medication, my symptoms returned.
Over the next two weeks, I tried to tough through and wait it out, and tried to make the lifestyle changes to encourage a healthy immune system - lots of exercise, eating well, trying to rest and just take care of and be kind to myself, thinking that at some point, it would have to calm down and give me a break, at least physically, for awhile.
But the symptoms just wouldn't stop. So I went back to the clinic and got a prescription for medication to cover several more outbreaks.
Since then, I have gone through another several doses for two more recurrences. All in less than two months from contracting the virus.
And I'm still having the constant tingling as well as itching and pain. The tingling never seems to stop.
I'm also seeing blisters on other parts of my body - I just discovered one on my breast. Now, I'm afraid to touch my body in general, and I just don't know more to do to try and ease the symptoms.
The nurse who gave me my positive lab result said repeatedly that HSV-1 is supposed to be the "preferable" form of genital herpes, with less frequent breakouts and less risk of transmission. But what I am experiencing is super intense, and I am baffled.
I don't understand why there is no reprieve from my symptoms, other than when I'm taking antivirals. Am I going to need to take suppressive therapy?
I hate the idea of constantly having to be on medication, but these persistent symptoms are really starting to have a negative impact on me. It is truly holding me back from trying to heal, physically and especially psychologically, from this and to gain a better perspective.
With having constant physical symptoms, I think about my diagnosis and the virus constantly, every second of the day, as well as the hurt and anger I feel toward the person who gave this to me.
I know I am responsible for the decision I made to have sex with this person, who told me about his status, but not until we were in bed, undressed and on the verge of becoming intimate.
He also told me that it was impossible to transmit the virus when he was not having an outbreak - which I now know is absolutely untrue.
But at the time, in the heat of the moment, I didn't have that information and took the risk, believing what he was honest in what he told me. And he told me he had HSV for 8 years, so he really should have known better, if he wasn't outright deceiving me when we had "the talk."
So, soon after my diagnosis, we had an unpleasant conversation about how I felt about the timing of his disclosure - I wasn't uncivil and I tried not to use blaming language. I just wanted him to realize the problems with his disclosure, so he could change this, and hopefully, not have a similar situation happen again.
But he just became totally defensive, and now we no longer talk at all, which really hurts me. I didn't expect we would have a romantic relationship, but it's really painful that he doesn't want to talk to me again and doesn't care about how I am doing. The total rejection from him, combined with the discovery of my HSV, has been so brutal.
So there's the whole coming to terms with the fact that I have this, made worse from the fact that I got it from someone who is NOT loving, caring or supportive in any way, plus trying to get informed and find support (I have joined a local social and support group and I am always on here reading and trying to learn - this is an AMAZING site), as well as trying not hate myself and be bitter and negative, but while having constant physical symptoms the entire time. It's been really hard.
I am still very emotional about it, obviously, and I know that doesn't help with the symptoms, but is that the reason why I am having constant outbreaks? Any advice would be so appreciated.